Going through a divorce is hard for every party involved, and it is sometimes easy to forget that this also includes your children. Divorce has an enormous impact on children, and the way you and your co-parent handle it can impact them for years to come.
You want to make dealing with divorce as easy as possible for them to limit the long-term struggles they may face. But how can you do this?
Do not badmouth a co-parent
Thrive Global discusses ways to keep your divorce from having a negative impact on your kids. You can take several actions here. For example, while you should show a willingness to listen to any concerns your child has about your co-parent, you should never use this as an opportunity to badmouth them. This could eventually turn into a case of parental alienation, and the courts may classify this as a form of child psychological abuse.
Be direct and honest
Next, answer questions your child may have in as direct a manner as possible. However, spare them the grisly details. There are simply some things a child does not need to know, especially when it comes to the divorce of their parents. Work with your co-parent to figure out how to explain things in an honest and succinct way without going too far.
Finally, always put your child’s best interest first. For example, instead of having different celebrations on holidays or their birthday, it might help them feel like a member of a cohesive family unit if you host these gatherings together. Even if you and your co-parent are not on the best terms, doing this one small thing could be of great benefit to your child in the long run.